I read an article in the paper today entitled, "Parenting Is Not Always Easy". What? That seems to imply that parenting is usually or even sometimes easy, when my opinion is that parenting is never easy.
And don't get me wrong. I love being a parent. It's my most favourite job. Is it completely worthwhile? Yes. Would I do it again? Yes. Is it often fun and interesting and wonderful? Yes. But easy? No way.
It's the hardest job I have ever done. Again, not because it's so terrible, but because it's so important. We are raising these three little people who will become big people who we hope will be compassionate and positive contributors. This is a huge job. There are so many things that can go wrong!
And children are extremely vulnerable. The worry alone is hard. Worrying about whether they're eating right and enough. Worrying if they're sick. Worrying if they get a note from the teacher about behaviour and whether it will become a pattern....or maybe that's just me.
And there are so many details; so many decisions to make at all times. You think planning a wedding is hard? Try raising a human being! The details never stop! With every phase, they just change to different details.
Thank goodness we have the hugs, the 'I love you's', the holiday excitement, the fascination with watching little people learn and grow.
The worst part is that, although I want to do the right thing, it's not always clear what that is. Most of the time you just take a deep breath and take a leap of faith. You do what you think is right and you hope against hope that everything will work out okay.
All you parents out there, I think you know what I mean. I've decided that the hardest jobs are the most worthwhile. And anyway, easy jobs are for amateurs.
1 comment:
i think, if you are doing it right, parenting is never easy. as much as i'd like to have a stepford-child, life is ever interesting (read as humbling, embarassing, joyful, frustrating) with my girls and at the end of the day, i wouldn't change things. you are in the hard-work phase of teaching your kids how to be decent folk. with meag at 13, i am now in the phase where i see that hard work having paid off as she becomes an amazing young woman.
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